Well, we are finally to the "one day". It took us longer than we thought to get here, since our original plan was to start a second adoption after Kate turned one. BUT if there's one thing I've learned after having a kid, it's that plans change.
In all honesty, can you ever REALLY be ready for another kid? I don't really think that you can. Sometimes I'm not even sure that we're ready for ONE kid, much less another one! When we adopted Kate, our world turned upside down. Definitely in a good way, but TOTALLY different from when it was just me and Kevin. We went from pretty much playing everything by ear, to having our lives scheduled 24 hours a day. Needless to say, becoming a family of 3 was an adjustment. And becoming a family of 4... well, I can't even imagine it yet.
I think like every parent, you wonder how another little person will fit into your family. Logistically, how is this going to work out? Are there enough hours in the day? I can already say that there aren't. Are we going to love another one just as much? Well, yeah. Am I worried about making sure there's still enough "Kate-time"? Yep. But it will work out, just like it has for so many other families. I mean it's not like we're talking about 19 kids and counting. We're talking about one more baby, 2 total kids. So yeah, things will be crazy(ier), but that's life, and we'll figure out what our new normal is.
The funny thing about adoption is that you have to be ready for a baby RIGHT NOW, but you also have to be prepared to wait. I think we are ready for either of those scenarios. Most likely, we'll be waiting for some amount of time to be matched. Our agency's average wait time is about a year. But it might not be a year. It might be much sooner than that, and we have to be ready if that happens to be the case. With Kate, we waited just 3 months to be matched and then a month after that, she was born! So there is always the possibility that it will be quick, but there's also the possibility that it will be much longer. And I think we're okay with waiting. Life is good right now.
So where does that leave us? As of now, we've submitted our initial paperwork to our adoption agency. We have one more stack of paperwork that we need to complete, and we need to get our physicals and background checks before we start our homestudy. So that's pretty much it. We would love it if you would pray for us as we go through this second adoption journey. We're looking forward to our future family of 4, but really enjoying this stage as a family of 3.
Congrats!! What an exciting (and I'm sure scary) time! Ill be praying for your family as you go through this process and as you transition to being a family of 4. I look forward to learning about your journey as you go!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Dawn! Exciting (and scary) is right! There's so much that you can't really prepare for with an adoption, plus the new-ness of another family member! We are looking forward to it.
DeleteCongrats! I don't think you can ever really 'be ready' for another one but you (as a family) adapts and changes and loves and embraces another member!
ReplyDeleteThank you! We're looking forward to meeting the newest member!
DeleteAhhh!! How exciting! Yup, it's crazy at first, just like it was when Kate joined your family, but you will LOVE seeing Kate with a brother or sister! Congratulations!
ReplyDeleteThank you! So excited for y'all too, with baby #3! :) It will be so fun to see your two interact with your littlest one!
DeleteThis is so awesome!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Leslie!
DeleteCongrats I hope your wish to become a family of 4 happens soon. We have also talked about adopting another child but financially not sure it will happen. Good luck
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Thank you! We're definitely excited!!
DeleteI wish you lots of luck with the second adoption. It's true you are never completely ready but you will adjust and it will be wonderful. God bless!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Dawn! I know a 2nd will be yet another {great} adjustment and we're looking forward to it!
DeleteYay, yay, yay!!! Really appreciated hearing some good & exciting news after the sadness here in PA this week...and this definitely makes me smile. So happy & excited for you all! You will remain in my prayers! Love ya!
ReplyDeleteYay, yay, yay!!! Really appreciated hearing some good & exciting news after the sadness here in PA this week...and this definitely makes me smile. So happy & excited for you all! You will remain in my prayers! Love ya!
ReplyDeleteThank you! It is definitely exciting! :) We have been praying for you and your family this week. Love you too!
DeleteKelley, You and Kevin will do as great a job with two as you have done just having Kate, but now she will know what a wonderful thing it is to have a sibling and I'm sure she will be a great BIG sister as well!! Congratulations on your decision and your journey to expand your family!
ReplyDeleteWhat exciting news!! I can't wait to hear more about your (2nd) adoption journey!
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful season in your lives. We were a family of 3 for 12 years and I unexpectedly got pregnant. We are now a family of 5. It's very different but very wonderful. Your right, it will all fall into place once it happens. Prayers for you all :)
ReplyDeleteVery exciting!! Happy for you!!
ReplyDeleteKelly, I am very excited for you! I am looking forward to following your journey to becoming a family of 4! Are you using your same adoption agency? Thoughts and prayers are you journey into adoption again!!!
ReplyDeleteThis is so exciting! I will be praying for y'all!
ReplyDeleteOh my this is VERY exciting news! Kate will be the best big sister ever and teach her sibling all kinds of wonderful things! Blessings to you and Kevin as you embark on this journey.....we've been on this journey once with our son who we adopted! He is now 13. I am super thrilled for all of you and keeping you in prayer for God's plan!
ReplyDeleteWow, I know you think you took longer, but I really didn’t expect that “one day” to be this soon. Well, we are all different from one another. Some will feel like they're more than ready, but realize they aren’t once the circumstances are there. Whereas, there are some who are not confident about being ready, but will do well in the job. I think you are the latter. Good luck to your soon to be family of 4!
ReplyDeleteDean Glover @ Adoption Network
Congratulations!!! I remember finding your blog when my husband I were starting the adoption process last year. I haven't been on blogs too much recently but found yours again and I'm so happy to hear you are adopting again! Congratulations!! My husband and I are matched with a baby girl due December 15 and we are so excited! :) Can't wait to follow along with your journey to baby number 2 :)
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